Have you seen the Rise of the Guardians? It’s a great kids movie about believing in Santa, the Easter Bunny, the Tooth Fairy, The Sandman and Jack Frost. But it also features the Bogey-Man. When the children believe in one of the characters, they have the ability to see that character. The story is about the woes of Jack Frost who remains invisible to everyone, except only one little boy who does believe in him. Jack then takes that belief and realises his own potential to go on to save everyone from the Boogey-Man who is trying to take over the world.
Here are the amazing parallels in this movie to real life troubles. To me the Boogey-Man, represents fear. He lives off fear and he grows with it. He wants the everyone to fear him, so he can rule the world. In the process he injures the Sandman. The Sandman is the maker of dreams and this means that Fear kills Dreams. Jack Frost thinks he is invisible and worthless, but one person said to him. “I see you”. Then Jack goes on to demonstrate the amazing power of self-discovery to overcome his own fears and emotions to believe in himself and succeed in bringing back dreams (The Sandman) and then to squash his fear (The Boogey-Man)..
Fear is your ego telling you it feels comfortable and safe to stay right where you are. At least you know your fear and you know that you can work around it. After all, you have been doing it for so long. It’s like the white elephant in the room. You know it’s there, you just think you can ignore it and still live happily not pushing yourself to do anything you dream of.
Fear is not evil. In fact, feeling emotional pain of any sort is a God Given, vital part of your journey. However Fear is designed to push you back into Happiness. Fear isn’t designed to be lived in permanently. Letting fear own you, is the kind of thing that leads to depression, stress and anxiety.
As I’m sure you know, fear helps to trigger the flight, fight or freeze response. Back when we were hunter-gatherers, this was a vital part of survival, and now, scarily similar, in our technologically advanced society, we mainly apply fear to still keeping us in simple survival mode. The stresses of everyday survival to stay in the rat race, to earn the money, to pay the bills for the things we perceive as essential for our comfort, places us firmly on autopilot. “Staying safe” (Flight or Freeze) So Fear equals “keep me safe” in the brain. It’s Your Security Blanket.
But have you finally realised that your fear, that is keeping you safe, is also holding you back? Gaining the confidence you need to push through the fear and accomplish the dreams you want to achieve can take some work, but they are worth it in the end.
When your life becomes too focused on staying safe and frozen in your fear, you can very often lose your sense of self-worth! Quite often you also have to contend with other people putting you down, or even just being blunt in a way that allows misinterpretation of the message, creating your own lack of self-worth to make it worse than it really is.
Being unhappy in yourself, is very restrictive. When you can’t realise your own worth you will struggle to strive for more. Do you lack confidence? Do you lack self-love? Do you think other’s opinions are more important than yours?
You are not a doormat for other people to walk all over. It is not ok to put others happiness in front of your own. It is time you learnt to accept yourself the way you are and realise that you are worthy of love. And you are worthy of love from the most important person in your life. You!
When you can go within and learn to see your own self-worth, you no longer need to look for something outside of yourself to make you “complete”. Once you can accept your own faults and learn to either love them or change them, you are able to completely hand yourself over to love. You are Worthy. You are amazing and you deserve the best that your dreams can aspire to.
Re-learning to love yourself is the start to realising that you are not a person made to accommodate someone else’s whims. You were designed perfectly for you. Loving yourself will illuminate you, so that your light can shine so bright wherever you go, leading the way to your purpose.
Your mind is a very powerful tool and when you consciously choose the intent of changing your thoughts, your mind will help you to achieve anything you set yourself to do. Simply making the decision to take the first step toward your goal is one of the most courageous things you can do. From there, the next step becomes easier, and easier and easier.
And the one thing I can be sure of, is that once you learn to put your happiness first, your light will shine so brightly that your happiness will be contagious and those around you will benefit more, than you could ever imagine. Being consistently happy, allows you to greatly diminish fear, anger, judgment, bitterness and jealousy and this leads to the ability to love yourself more, which in turn allows you to love others completely.
When you have such a reward on the horizon, how can you put off taking that first step? Be brave and have the confidence in yourself to face the fear holding you back.
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