Looking after our own emotional wellbeing can quickly fall into the ‘ I haven’t got time’ basket as often we are programmed to spend most of our day putting everyone else before ourselves, being generous to other people and completely forgetting about being generous and caring to ourselves.
The problem with that is that if we don’t take care of ourselves, sooner or later we won’t be of much use to anyone else—or to ourselves!
If you are one of those people who are constantly running around in emergency mode, your mind and body may just end up paying a high price for putting other people needs before your own. I am a big supporter of the airplane/oxygen metaphor.
You must put on your own oxygen mask before helping others.
In my coaching practise, I still get shocked at the amount of people who come to me burned out and exhausted believing that everybody’s needs are more important than their own.
These people often believe that self-care is selfish and may have difficulty saying No to other people.
I call these people the ‘ People Pleasers, fixers or rescuers’ as they continue to put other people’s needs and wants before their own and in time, can end up feeling burned out or even resentful towards other people.
Now don’t get me wrong, it is important to care for others, but we also need to commit to taking care of ourselves.
Remember, when your own needs are taken care of, you are much more equipped to look after other people.
Start by changing a few small things in your day like making sure you take regular breaks, eat regular meals and practice saying No to other people.
Tune in to your own needs and learn to honour them as well – without feeling guilty.
Also try to give up the need for perfectionism and stop setting yourself ridiculously high expectations of yourself.
Aim to do your best and that is sufficient.
One of my favourite tips to prioritise your emotional wellbeing is to write a list of 20 things which make you happy and commit to doing at least one thing a day from this list.
Now the list does not need to be full of expensive ideas but it could just be simple things as burning some nice smelling candles or having a nice warm bath or treating yourself to 10 minutes relaxation time. So this month, go out and be generous to yourself!
Remember, you deserve to take care of yourself – you are worth it!